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  • Sheryl Lee Ralph on why she and her husband have never lived together in their nearly 20-year marriage


    Sheryl Lee Ralph is sharing why she and her husband, Vincent Hughes, whom she has been married to since 2005, have never lived together.

    The “Abbott Elementary” star recently spoke to People about living separately from her husband, who lives on the East Coast as a Democratic member of the Pennsylvania State Senate. Ralph lives thousands of miles away on the West Coast, where her hit comedy is partly filmed.

    “I’m very fortunate. The man that I am married to is Senator Vincent Hughes, seventh Senatorial district of Pennsylvania,” she told the publication.

    She continued, “You fall in love with somebody and you realize he’s not leaving his career. He’s not leaving Philadelphia. I’m not leaving Hollywood. When you have children, it’s very difficult.”

    The 68-year-old actor and Broadway star shares son Etienne Maurice and daughter Ivy-Victoria Maurice with ex-husband Eric Maurice, whom she was married to from 1990 to 2001. Hughes, 68, also has two children, according to Essence.

    While speaking to People, Ralph revealed that she and Hughes previously planned a schedule where they saw each other “every two weeks” and that “has continued to work out well” for the couple over the years.

    “When I go to see him, I love to see him. When it’s time to leave, ‘Bye-bye. See you soon.’ I’m telling you, life is good,” she shared.

    Ralph went on to explain the benefit of having two homes. She added, “He has his own life. I have my own life. He has his own real career, I have my own real career. He has his light to stand in, I have my light to stand in. He is not looking at me thinking about status or this or that. He’s doing his thing. I get to do my thing.”

    Even though the two don’t live together, they still make sure to communicate and tackle any problems that arise.

    “I’ve evolved into (saying), ‘Let’s talk about it.’ If you sit in problems, you get anxious, depressed, and all the juiciness in life starts to dry up,” she said. “I can’t have that, because all of that will mess with my good looks!”

    The pair will celebrate their 20-year wedding anniversary in July, People reported.

    Ralph previously addressed her relationship with Hughes last month while attending the Out100 event. There, she spoke to a People reporter on the red carpet who asked if Ralph’s marriage was “technically a long-distance” relationship.

    “Oh, listen. My husband and I are technically very married,” she replied. “We will be celebrating 20 years next year.”

    She said fans who are curious about how the couple makes it work can look at another famous pair: Dolly Parton and her husband Carl Thomas Dean, whom she has been married to since 1966.

    “And people always say, ‘Well, how does that work? How does that work?’” Ralph recalled. “I say, ‘Dolly Parton knows how it works.’ She’s been married for 50 years. You have never seen her husband one time. You know why? Because they plan on staying married.”

    Ralph said she and her husband intend to stay together, too. “Our business is in the bedroom. Thank you!” she concluded.

    This article was originally published on TODAY.com





    Sheryl Lee Ralph, the talented actress and singer known for her roles in Broadway’s Dreamgirls and hit TV series like Moesha and Ray Donovan, recently opened up about her unique marital arrangement with her husband, Senator Vincent Hughes.

    In a candid interview with Essence magazine, Ralph revealed that she and Hughes have never lived together in their nearly 20-year marriage. Despite being deeply committed to each other, the couple has chosen to maintain separate households for the sake of their individual careers and personal well-being.

    Ralph explained that their decision was born out of a desire to prioritize their own happiness and fulfillment, rather than conforming to societal expectations of what a traditional marriage should look like. She emphasized the importance of maintaining independence and autonomy within a relationship, and how living apart has allowed her and Hughes to thrive both personally and professionally.

    While their unconventional living arrangement may raise eyebrows for some, Ralph and Hughes have found a formula that works for them and have built a strong and enduring partnership based on mutual respect, trust, and love.

    In a world where marriage is often equated with cohabitation, Sheryl Lee Ralph’s story serves as a powerful reminder that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to love and relationships. Ultimately, what matters most is finding a dynamic that brings happiness and fulfillment to both partners, regardless of societal norms or expectations.

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  • Sheryl Lee Ralph Explains Why She’s Never Lived with Husband Vincent Hughes


    Sheryl Lee Ralph has been married to politician Vincent Hughes for the past 19 years, but they’ve actually never lived together!

    The 69-year-old Abbott Elementary actress is opening up about the success of her relationship and their non-traditional living situation.

    “I’m very fortunate. The man that I am married to is Senator Vincent Hughes, seventh Senatorial district of Pennsylvania,” Sheryl told People. “You fall in love with somebody and you realize he’s not leaving his career. He’s not leaving Philadelphia. I’m not leaving Hollywood.”

    Keep reading to find out more…

    She added, “When you have children, it’s very difficult.” Sheryl shares two adult children with ex-husband Eric Maurice.

    “Every two weeks we saw each other, and it has continued to work out well. When I go to see him, I love to see him. When it’s time to leave, ‘Bye-bye. See you soon.’ I’m telling you,…



    Sheryl Lee Ralph, the talented actress and singer known for her roles in Broadway and television, recently opened up about her decision to never live with her husband, Pennsylvania State Senator Vincent Hughes.

    In an interview with Essence magazine, Ralph explained that she and Hughes have been happily married for over 15 years, but have chosen to maintain separate households. She shared that their unique living arrangement allows them to have their own space and independence while also nurturing their relationship.

    Ralph emphasized that living apart does not mean their marriage is lacking in any way. She believes that each person should have their own space to grow and be themselves, and that living separately has actually strengthened their bond.

    The actress also mentioned that her husband is very supportive of her career and understands the demands of her work. This mutual respect and understanding have been key factors in their successful marriage.

    Ultimately, Ralph’s decision to not live with her husband serves as a reminder that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships. What works for one couple may not work for another, and it’s important to prioritize communication, respect, and understanding in any partnership.

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  • Menendez brothers lived with injustice for 35 years after abuse ‘mocked’ – we’ll pay any price to free them, cousin says


    THE family of Erik and Lyle Menendez have had enough.

    It’s been 35 long years since the brothers were arrested for gunning down their parents amid accusations of sickening sexual abuse at the hands of their father.

    Black and white photo of Erik and Lyle Menendez in front of their Beverly Hills home.

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    Erik Menendez, left, and brother Lyle have spent 35 years in jail for killing their parentsCredit: Getty
    Anamaria Baralt in an interview.

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    Anamaria Baralt, Erik and Lyle’s cousin, told The U.S. Sun the time is now for their releaseCredit: The U.S. Sun
    Mugshots of Erik and Lyle Menendez.

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    The Menendez brothers are said to have rehabilitated themselves, going above and beyond to help other inmatesCredit: AP

    Yet in an exclusive interview with The U.S. Sun, the brothers’ cousin admitted the family would pay even the price of being dragged back into court again to get them home.

    Anamaria Baralt hopes to see a change after she claims the brothers were “mocked” in previous trials for alleging their dad was guilty of abuse.

    GLOBAL ATTENTION

    The harrowing murder was headline news back in 1989 and has dramatically been revived in the public eye following two recent Netflix series about the killings.

    Lyle, now 56, and Erik, 53, have been locked away for life, with no chance of parole, after brutally killing their parents, Kitty and Jose Menendez, in their swanky Beverly Hills mansion on that fateful August day.

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    After years of campaigning, having served over three decades behind bars in San Diego, and with their family pleading for their release, the brothers are said to be “cautiously optimistic” about the future.

    A resentencing hearing initially slated for the end of January has now been pushed back until March with the California wildfires holding proceedings up.

    While the delay was unavoidable, the family hope it will allow the authorities to complete a “deep dive” on everything pertaining to the case.

    Lyle and Erik, caged for so long, can take another few weeks before learning their fate.

    Many different outcomes are on the table when their hearing finally occurs.

    They could be released immediately, forced to go before the parole board and relive the nightmare – which could take months and be “traumatic” for the family as old wounds would be reopened – or even be denied their freedom entirely.

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    A separate petition includes bombshell evidence unearthed by indefatigable investigative journalist Robert Rand in which a former boy band member accuses Jose, a former RCA executive, of sexual abuse.

    It has been on the table for two years.

    The pressure on new Los Angeles District Attorney Nathan Hochman to deliver an acceptable outcome is growing with the spotlight burning bright.

    But for cousin Anamaria and most of her family, the time is now to finally release their loved ones finally.

    HEARTFELT APPEAL

    In an emotional interview with The U.S. Sun, Anamaria’s eyes began to well up when talking about the surge of interest and reaction in one of the most infamous murder cases of all time.

    The Washington state-based yoga instructor has lived with the pain of seeing her cousins jailed and vilified for almost four decades and, before opening her heart to The U.S. Sun last year, had never spoken publicly about her – and her family’s – indescribable pain.

    “We don’t love the global spotlight,” she said before taking to the stage in Washington DC last week to take part in a talk about the case with Rand.

    “But at the same time, we are grateful for it because, hopefully, it will help us get them back.”

    Aunt Joan VanderMolen arriving at a courthouse, assisted by a woman.

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    Erik and Lyle Menendez’s aunt Joan VanderMolen is 95 and desperate for their release as she battles health issuesCredit: AP

    Anamaria was able to cast her mind back to the two trials in 1994 and 1996 – the first one was a mistrial and the second, coming just days after the stunning OJ Simpson verdict – and shudders.

    With people less open about mental health struggles and sexual abuse, she says the boys’ pleas fell on deaf ears.

    “The feeling of injustice was inescapable. They were mocked openly by the prosecutors in the trial,” she said, “that just wouldn’t happen today.”

    She speaks with authority because the messages of support for her two cousins have sometimes left her totally floored.

    Timeline of the Menendez brothers case

    Erik and Lyle Menendez’s case dates back more than three decades since their parents were found shot to death at their Beverly Hills mansion.

    Below is a timeline of the brothers’ case, starting at the gruesome crime scene:

    August 20, 1989 – José and Kitty Menendez are found dead from multiple shotgun wounds.

    March 8, 1990 – Lyle is arrested outside his parents’ Beverly Hills mansion.

    March 11, 1990 – Erik surrenders to police after flying back into Los Angeles from Israel.

    December 1992 – Murder charges against the brothers are officially filed.

    July 20, 1993 – The murder trial, highly publicized on Court TV, begins in Los Angeles with Erik and Lyle each having a separate jury.

    January 28, 1994 – The first trial ends with two deadlocked juries.

    October 11, 1995 – Lyle and Erik’s second trial begins with one jury.

    March 20, 1996 – The Menendez brothers are convicted of two counts of first-degree murder and conspiracy to commit murder.

    July 2, 1996 – Lyle and Erik are sentenced to life in prison without the possibility of parole and sent to separate prisons.

    February 22, 2018 – Lyle is transferred to the San Diego prison, where Erik is held.

    April 4, 2018 – Lyle was moved into the same housing unit as Erik – the first time the brothers were reunited in over 20 years.

    May 2023 – Lyle and Erik’s attorney files a habeas corpus petition after Roy Rosselló, a member of the Puerto Rican boy band Menudo, made sexual abuse allegations against Jose Menendez in a Peacock docuseries.

    September 19, 2024 – Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story releases on Netflix.

    October 3, 2024 – Los Angeles District Attorney George Gascón says his office is reviewing new evidence in connection with Lyle and Erik’s convictions.

    October 7, 2024 – The Menendez Brothers documentary film comes out on Netflix.

    October 16, 2024 – Family members of the Menendez brothers hold a press conference begging for the siblings to be released from prison.

    October 24, 2024 – Los Angeles County District Attorney George Gascón recommends the brothers be resentenced.

    November 25, 2024 – The Menendez brothers appear in court for a status hearing to learn their resentencing hearing is pushed back from December 11 to allow new DA Nathan Hochman more time to review the case.

    January 30-31, 2025 – Erik and Lyle are set to go before a judge in a scheduled hearing.

    INCREDIBLE RESPONSE

    Naturally, in this often toxic age of social media, there have been a few jibes, people messaging that Erik and Lyle are getting their just desserts.

    “There have been some hurtful messages,” she said.

    But, in the main, Anamaria has been hit with an emotional, “touching” barrage of support, mostly from people who have also suffered their sexual abuse nightmares yet have been too scared to speak up – until now.

    “I’ve had so many men reach out to tell me that it feels like we are fighting for them, too,” she admitted with a tear in her eye. “I can’t even begin to express what that feels like.”

    “Resentencing is designed for people like them who have done the work and changed their lives.

    Anamaria Baralt, the cousin of Erik and Lyle Menendez

    Emotions also ran high when she talked about her beloved mother, Terri, and Aunt Joan.

    Both ladies, 85 and 93 years old respectively, are fighting their own health battles.

    Anamaria and the rest of her family pray that the boys are freed to see them before it’s too late.

    “It would mean everything for my mother to hug them,” she said.

    A 2023 documentary has blown the lid off the controversial Menendez case, spotlighting the jaw-dropping work of Rand, whose findings back the brothers’ claims that they killed their parents in self-defense after enduring years of alleged sexual abuse.

    Adding fuel to the fire, explosive testimony from former Menudo star Roy Rosselló and a chilling letter Erik wrote months before the murders to his late cousin Andy Cano have surfaced as crucial evidence.

    The Menendez legal team handed it to the DA’s office two years ago, yet progress has been slow.

    “We wanted an expedited timeline but that’s just what we’ve had to deal with,” said Anamaria.

    Ex-Republican-turned-Independent Hochman says he feels for the brothers but isn’t buying everything their lawyer, Mark Geragos, is selling.

    Hochman slammed Geragos’ claims that they didn’t get a fair shake in court as “too simplistic” for such a high-profile case.

    “Knowing the Geragos narrative is wrong, the issues that we’ll be looking at for the trial will be whether or not these two young men faced an immediate threat to their life,” Hochman, who has admitted he’s combing through “dozens” of confidential files ahead of the March hearings, told Deadline.

    ENOUGH IS ENOUGH

    The brother’s extended family, however, wants them out now.

    Anamaria admitted they were “grateful” to sit down with Hochman for three hours at the back end of 2024 and were able to “communicate to him about their rehabilitation process and their journeys.”

    Erik and Lyle have been trumpeted as perfect prisoners, going above and beyond to help others in jail.

    They have, says Anamaria, been designing programs over the years “without any help of release” to help vulnerable young offenders to help make a “real change.”

    She describes both boys as “joyous people” with a “real lightheartedness about them.”

    “I’m a believer in redemption. Resentencing is designed for people like them who have done the work and changed their lives,” said their cousin.

    “The amount of personal growth is stunning. I hope that’s what matters at the end of the day.”

    Lyle and Erik Menendez with their attorneys in court.

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    The Menendez brothers were subjected to two trials where their cousin maintains they were “openly mocked” about their claims of sexual abuseCredit: AP



    The Menendez brothers, Lyle and Erik, have spent 35 years behind bars for the murder of their parents, Jose and Kitty Menendez. However, their cousin, Diana Enriquez, believes that they have been living with injustice all this time after enduring years of abuse that was “mocked” by their parents.

    Enriquez has vowed to do whatever it takes to free her cousins, even if it means paying any price. She believes that the brothers were driven to their actions by the trauma they experienced at the hands of their parents, and that they deserve a second chance at life outside of prison.

    The Menendez case has long been a controversial and debated one, with many arguing that the brothers were unfairly sentenced and should be granted a new trial. Enriquez’s passionate plea for justice for Lyle and Erik has reignited the conversation surrounding their case, and she is determined to see them receive the freedom she believes they deserve.

    As the fight for the Menendez brothers’ freedom continues, their cousin’s unwavering support and determination serve as a beacon of hope for those who believe in their innocence.

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  • If You Lived When There Was Slavery In America – Paperback By Kamma, Anne – GOOD



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    Are you interested in learning more about what life was like during the time of slavery in America? If so, this book is a must-read. Written by Anne Kamma, this paperback explores the harsh realities of slavery and how it impacted the lives of both enslaved individuals and those who owned them.

    Through engaging storytelling and historical accuracy, Kamma vividly brings to life the struggles and triumphs of individuals living in this tumultuous time period. Readers will gain a deeper understanding of the complexities of slavery and its lasting effects on American society.

    Whether you are a history buff or simply curious about this dark chapter in American history, this book is a valuable resource for anyone looking to educate themselves on the realities of slavery. Pick up a copy today and delve into the past to gain a better understanding of the present.
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  • Lives Lived & Lost: Tiger Bech ’21 Was Joy On and Off the Field


    Tiger Bech ’21 had a magnetic personality and a larger-than-life sense of humor. He was described by Princeton football coaches as fearless, and Bech’s teammates gravitated toward him as a source of joy and encouragement on and off the field.

    His death in a truck attack in New Orleans on New Year’s Day was not only shocking but devastating to family and friends.

    “It’s very jarring because he had this like aura of untouchability,” Harrison Caponiti ’23, a Princeton football teammate, tells PAW.

    The truck driver, identified by law enforcement as Shamsud-Din Jabbar, was an Army veteran. He drove into a crowd with a black ISIS flag on the truck’s rear bumper early on New Year’s Day, killing 14 people and injuring about 30 others. The FBI has stated that the attack was an act of terrorism. Jabbar, 42, was killed in a shootout with police.

    Bech was in New Orleans to celebrate New Year’s with fellow Princeton football alumnus Ryan Quigley ’20, who suffered serious injuries as a result of the attack.

    Tiger Bech ’21


    Princeton Athletics

    A Louisianan, Bech grew up in Lafayette and attended St. Thomas More Catholic High School. He earned all-state honors as a football player.

    “He was like a lightning bolt that streaked across all of our lives, with the intensity of his love in the bright light of his personality and laughter,” said his high school position coach Lance Strother in a Facebook post. “He lit up our world and we’ll never forget it.”

    Bech majored in sociology and played for the Princeton football team, earning All-Ivy honors as a punt returner in 2017 and 2018, and recording 825 receiving yards during his career as a wide receiver.

    Going into the 2018 season, Bech “was part of a group that was arguably one of the strongest in the league and one of the most talented,” says Mark Rosenbaum, the quarterbacks coach for the Princeton football team. In 2018, his first year at Princeton, he was the wide receivers coach, and got to know Bech.

    “He grew immensely in his approach to the details and in meetings and practice and everything,” Rosenbaum says. “And I think what defined him as a player is just his toughness and courage.”

    Carson Bobo ’23 was a tight end on the football team and remembers looking up to Bech when learning the offense during his freshman year.

    “Things are hard when you’re freshmen and you kind of look up to the older guys to guide you. And he was always just having a good time smiling and never took anything too seriously — while he kept the important things important,” says Bobo.

    At his funeral service, people spoke about Bech’s love for life, outgoing personality, and how he cherished those around him.

    Quigley and Bech worked together at Seaport Global Holdings, an investment company in New York City.

    “From the moment that [Bech] joined our firm, he was recognized as a very positive, energetic young man, exceptional in many ways,” says Victor Kurylak ’79, COO of Seaport.

    According to multiple people who attended Bech’s wake, the funeral home was nearly overwhelmed by the number of mourners, with a line of people wrapped around the building. “The love that came from the funeral, oh my goodness … this place was packed,” says Bobo.

    Some alumni flew into Atlanta and drove eight hours to Lafayette to be there for Bech’s funeral.

    “He was a ‘Tiger’ in every way — a ferocious competitor with endless energy, a beloved teammate, and a caring friend,” said head football coach Bob Surace ’90 in a statement. “Our last conversation was about how proud I was of the growth he showed during his time at Princeton and the success he was having after graduation.”

    At Bech’s funeral service, his siblings emphasized how his death had brought so many people together in love.

    “He was my best friend. My role model. My number one fan. The person I always wanted to grow up and be,” said Jack Bech, Tiger’s younger brother, at the service. Jack Bech is a wide receiver at Texas Christian University.

    “He did everything he set out to do this side of heaven, except for watching me live out my dream of playing in the NFL,” Jack Bech said. “But now, he will have the best seat in the house.”

    Hope Perry ’24 is PAW’s reporting fellow.



    Tiger Bech, a beloved member of the class of 2021, was known for his infectious joy both on and off the field. With a passion for sports and a heart of gold, Tiger touched the lives of all who knew him.

    On the field, Tiger was a force to be reckoned with. His speed and agility made him a standout player in both soccer and track, earning him respect and admiration from teammates and opponents alike. But it wasn’t just his athleticism that made Tiger special – it was his positive attitude and unwavering dedication to his team that truly set him apart.

    Off the field, Tiger was a true friend to all. His warm smile and kind words could brighten anyone’s day, and his genuine care and concern for others made him a pillar of strength in the community. Whether he was cheering on his friends at a game or lending a listening ear to someone in need, Tiger was always there, ready to offer support and encouragement.

    Sadly, Tiger’s life was cut short far too soon. His passing has left a void in the hearts of all who knew him, but his memory will live on in the countless lives he touched. Let us remember Tiger not for the sorrow of his loss, but for the joy he brought to us all. Rest in peace, Tiger Bech. You will be forever missed.

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  • The Lives They Lived – The New York Times

    The Lives They Lived – The New York Times


    Before the answers to life’s questions fit in our pocket, you used to have to turn a dial. If you were lucky, Phil Donahue would be on, ready to guide you toward enlightenment. In a stroke of deluxe good fortune, Dr. Ruth Westheimer might have stopped by to be the enlightenment. He was the search engine. She was a trusted result.

    Donahue hailed from Cleveland. The windshield glasses, increasingly snowy thatch of hair, marble eyes, occasional pair of suspenders and obvious geniality said “card catalog,” “manager of the ’79 Reds,” “Stage Manager in a Chevy Motors production of ‘Our Town.’” Dr. Ruth was Donahue’s antonym, a step stool to his straight ladder. She kept her hair in a butterscotch helmet, fancied a uniform of jacket-blouse-skirt and came to our aid, via Germany, with a voice of crinkled tissue paper. Not even eight years separated them, yet so boyish was he and so seasoned was she that he read as her grandson. (She maybe reached his armpit.) Together and apart, they were public servants, American utilities.

    Donahue was a journalist. His forum was the talk show, but some new strain in which the main attraction bypassed celebrities. People — every kind of them — lined up to witness other people being human, to experience Donahue’s radical conduit of edification, identification, curiosity, shock, wonder, outrage, surprise and dispute, all visible in the show’s televisual jackpot: cutaways to us, reacting, taking it all in, nodding, gasping. When a celebrity made it to the “Donahue” stage — Bill Clinton, say, La Toya Jackson, the Judds — they were expected to be human, too, to be accountable for their own humanity. From 1967 to 1996, for more than 6,000 episodes, he permitted us to be accountable to ourselves. 

    What Donahue knew was that we — women especially — were eager, desperate, to be understood, to learn and learn and learn. We call his job “host” when, really, the way he did it, running that microphone throughout the audience, racing up, down, around, sticking it here then here then over here, was closer to “switchboard operator.” It was “hot dog vendor at Madison Square Garden.” The man got his steps in. He let us do more of the questioning than he did — he would just edit, interpret, clarify. Egalitarianism ruled. Articulation, too. And anybody who needed the mic usually got it.

    The show was about both what was on our mind and what had never once crossed it. Atheism. Naziism. Colorism. Childbirth. Prison. Rapists. AIDS. Chippendales, Chernobyl, Cher. Name a fetish, Phil Donahue tried to get to its bottom, sometimes by trying it himself. (Let us never forget the episode when he made his entrance in a long skirt, blouse and pussy bow for one of the show’s many cross-dressing studies.) Now’s the time to add that “Donahue” was a morning talk show. In Philadelphia, he arrived every weekday at 9 a.m., which meant that, in the summers, I could learn about compulsive shopping or shifting gender roles from the same kitchen TV set as my grandmother.

    Sex and sexuality were the show’s prime subjects. There was so much that needed confessing, correction, corroboration, an ear lent. For that, Donahue needed an expert. Many times, the expert was Dr. Ruth, a godsend who didn’t land in this country until she was in her late 20s and didn’t land on television until she was in her 50s. Ruth Westheimer arrived to us from Germany, where she started as Karola Ruth Siegel and strapped in as her life corkscrewed, as it mocked fiction. Her family most likely perished in the Auschwitz death camps after she was whisked to the safety of a Swiss children’s home, where she was expected to clean. The twists include sniper training for one of the military outfits that would become the Israel Defense Forces, maiming by cannonball on her 20th birthday, doing research at a Planned Parenthood in Harlem, single motherhood and three husbands. She earned her doctorate from Columbia University, in education, and spent her postdoc researching human sexuality. And because her timing was perfect, she emerged at the dawn of the 1980s, an affable vector of an era’s craze for gnomic sages (Zelda Rubinstein, Linda Hunt, Yoda), masterpiece branding and the nasty.

    Hers was the age of Mapplethorpe and Madonna, of Prince, Skinemax and 2 Live Crew. On her radio and television shows, in a raft of books and a Playgirl column and through her promiscuous approach to talk-show appearances, she aimed to purge sex of shame, to promote sexual literacy. Her feline accent and jolly innuendo pitched, among other stuff, the Honda Prelude, Pepsi, Sling TV and Herbal Essences. (“Hey!” she offers to a young elevator passenger. “This is where we get off.”) The instructions for Dr. Ruth’s Game of Good Sex says it can be played by up to four couples; the board is vulval and includes stops at “Yeast Infection,” “Chauvinism” and “Goose Him.”

    On “Donahue,” she is direct, explicit, dispelling, humorous, clear, common-sensical, serious, vivid. A professional therapist. It was Donahue who handled the comedy. On one visit in 1987, a caller needs advice about a husband who cheats because he wants to have sex more often than she does. Dr. Ruth tells Donahue that if the caller wants to keep the marriage, and her husband wants to do it all the time, “then what she should do is to masturbate him. And it’s all right for him to masturbate himself also a few times.” The audience is hear-a-pin-drop rapt or maybe just squirmy. So Donahue reaches into his parochial-school-student war chest and pulls out the joke about the teacher who tells third-grade boys, “Don’t play with yourself, or you’ll go blind.” And Donahue raises his hand like a kid at the back of the classroom and asks, “Can I do it till I need glasses?” Westheimer giggles, maybe noticing the large pair on Donahue’s face. This was that day’s cold open.

    They were children of salesmen, these two; his father was in the furniture business, hers sold what people in the garment industry call notions. They inherited a salesman’s facility for people and packaging. When a “Donahue” audience member asks Westheimer whether her own husband believes she practices what she preaches, she says this is why she never brings him anywhere. “He would tell you and Phil: ‘Do not listen to her. It’s all talk,’” which cracks the audience up.

    But consider what she talked about — and consider how she said it. My favorite Dr. Ruth word was “pleasure.” From a German mouth, the word conveys what it lacks with an American tongue: sensual unfurling. She vowed to speak about sex to mass audiences using the proper terminology. Damn the euphemisms. People waited as long as a year and a half for tickets to “Donahue” so they could damn them, too. But of everything Westheimer pitched, of all the terms she precisely used, pleasure was her most cogent product, a gift she believed we could give to others, a gift she swore we owed ourselves.

    I miss the talk show that Donahue reinvented. I miss the way Dr. Ruth talked about sex. It’s fitting somehow that this antidogmatic-yet-priestly Irish Catholic man would, on occasion, join forces with a carnal, lucky-to-be-alive Jew to urge the exploration of our bodies while demonstrating respect, civility, reciprocation. They believed in us, that we were all interesting, that we could be trustworthy panelists in the discourse of being alive. Trauma, triviality, tubal ligation: Let’s talk about it! Fear doesn’t seem to have occurred to them. Or if it did, it was never a deterrent. Boldly they went. — And with her encouragement, boldly we came.

    Wesley Morris is a critic at large for The New York Times and a staff writer for the magazine.



    “The Lives They Lived: Remembering the Stories of Those We Lost”

    In a year filled with loss and heartache, it’s important to take a moment to remember the individuals who made a lasting impact on our world. The New York Times’ annual feature, “The Lives They Lived,” pays tribute to those who have passed away in the past year, highlighting their achievements, contributions, and the legacies they leave behind.

    From beloved celebrities and cultural icons to unsung heroes and everyday people, each life remembered in this special feature serves as a reminder of the diversity, resilience, and beauty of the human experience. Through poignant stories, powerful photographs, and heartfelt tributes, “The Lives They Lived” honors the memories of those who have touched our lives and shaped our world.

    As we reflect on the lives lost in the past year, let us also celebrate the enduring impact they have had on our lives and the world around us. Their stories remind us of the power of human connection, the importance of compassion, and the timeless nature of a life well-lived.

    Join us in remembering and honoring “The Lives They Lived,” and may their legacies continue to inspire and uplift us in the days ahead.

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  • Profiles in Resilience: Books for Children and Teens That Center the Lived

    Profiles in Resilience: Books for Children and Teens That Center the Lived



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    Experience of Adversity

    Resilience is a crucial skill for children and teenagers to develop, especially in the face of adversity. Reading books that center around characters who have faced challenges and overcome them can be a powerful way to inspire and empower young readers to navigate their own difficult experiences. Here are some recommended books that highlight resilience in children and teens:

    1. “Fish in a Tree” by Lynda Mullaly Hunt – This middle-grade novel follows the story of Ally, a dyslexic girl who struggles in school but learns to embrace her differences and find her strengths with the help of a supportive teacher.

    2. “The Hate U Give” by Angie Thomas – This young adult novel explores the themes of racial injustice and police brutality through the eyes of Starr, a teenage girl who becomes an activist after witnessing the shooting of her friend by a police officer.

    3. “Wonder” by R.J. Palacio – This bestselling novel follows the story of Auggie Pullman, a boy with facial differences who overcomes bullying and prejudice to find acceptance and friendship at his new school.

    4. “Brown Girl Dreaming” by Jacqueline Woodson – This memoir in verse tells the story of Woodson’s childhood growing up as an African American girl in the 1960s and 1970s, facing racism and discrimination but finding strength in her family and her love of writing.

    5. “The War that Saved My Life” by Kimberly Brubaker Bradley – This historical fiction novel follows the story of Ada, a girl with a clubfoot who escapes her abusive mother and finds a new family during World War II, learning to trust and love again.

    These books offer diverse perspectives and experiences of adversity, showing young readers that resilience is possible in the face of challenges. By reading about characters who have faced and overcome obstacles, children and teenagers can learn valuable lessons about perseverance, empathy, and the power of hope.
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  • Profiles in Resilience: Books for Children and Teens That Center the Lived Experience of Generational Poverty

    Profiles in Resilience: Books for Children and Teens That Center the Lived Experience of Generational Poverty


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    Publisher ‏ : ‎ ALA Editions (October 27, 2021)
    Language ‏ : ‎ English
    Paperback ‏ : ‎ 224 pages
    ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0838937888
    ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0838937884
    Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 11.2 ounces
    Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6 x 0.6 x 9 inches


    Growing up in poverty can present many challenges for children and teens, but it can also build resilience and strength. Reading books that center the lived experience of generational poverty can help young readers feel seen and understood, while also offering valuable lessons in perseverance and empathy.

    Here are a few powerful books that showcase the resilience of children and teens living in poverty:

    1. “Esperanza Rising” by Pam Muñoz Ryan – This middle-grade novel tells the story of Esperanza, a young girl who must leave her privileged life in Mexico to work in a California farm labor camp during the Great Depression. Through hard work and determination, Esperanza learns to overcome her challenges and build a new life for herself and her family.

    2. “The Hate U Give” by Angie Thomas – This young adult novel follows Starr, a black teenager who witnesses the fatal shooting of her childhood friend by a police officer. As Starr navigates the aftermath of the tragedy, she confronts issues of racism, poverty, and injustice in her community. The book offers a powerful depiction of resilience in the face of systemic oppression.

    3. “Brown Girl Dreaming” by Jacqueline Woodson – In this memoir written in verse, Woodson recounts her childhood growing up in the 1960s and 1970s as a black girl in both the North and South. Despite facing poverty and racial discrimination, Woodson finds solace in writing and storytelling, ultimately using her experiences to create a better future for herself.

    4. “Sweep: The Story of a Girl and Her Monster” by Jonathan Auxier – This middle-grade novel follows Nan, a young chimney sweep in Victorian London who befriends a golem named Charlie. As Nan and Charlie navigate the harsh realities of poverty and exploitation, they form a bond that helps them overcome their struggles and create a brighter future together.

    By reading these and other books that center the lived experience of generational poverty, children and teens can gain a deeper understanding of the challenges faced by marginalized communities, while also learning valuable lessons in resilience and empathy. These stories remind us that no matter our circumstances, we all have the power to create positive change in our lives and the world around us.
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    Experience of Resilient Individuals

    Resilience is an important trait to cultivate in children and teens, as it helps them navigate the ups and downs of life with courage and perseverance. One way to inspire resilience in young readers is through books that center the lived experiences of resilient individuals. These stories not only showcase the challenges these individuals face, but also highlight their strength, determination, and ability to overcome adversity.

    Here are some recommended books that center the lived experiences of resilient individuals for children and teens:

    1. “Malala’s Magic Pencil” by Malala Yousafzai
    This picture book tells the story of Malala Yousafzai, the young Pakistani activist who stood up for girls’ education and survived an assassination attempt. Through her inspiring story, readers learn about the power of education, bravery, and resilience.

    2. “The Crossover” by Kwame Alexander
    This novel-in-verse follows the life of Josh and his twin brother Jordan, as they navigate family struggles, friendship, and the challenges of growing up. Through basketball and poetry, the brothers learn about resilience, love, and the importance of perseverance.

    3. “Brown Girl Dreaming” by Jacqueline Woodson
    In this memoir-in-verse, Jacqueline Woodson shares her experiences growing up as an African American girl in the 1960s and 1970s. Through her powerful and poetic writing, readers learn about resilience, identity, and the importance of family and community.

    4. “The Hate U Give” by Angie Thomas
    This young adult novel follows Starr Carter, a 16-year-old girl who witnesses the police shooting of her childhood friend. As Starr grapples with grief, fear, and the complexities of speaking out, she learns about resilience, activism, and the power of finding her voice.

    These books not only offer diverse perspectives and experiences, but also provide valuable lessons on resilience, empathy, and the importance of standing up for what is right. By centering the lived experiences of resilient individuals, these stories can inspire and empower young readers to face their own challenges with strength and courage.
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  • Profiles in Resilience: Books for Children and Teens That Center the Lived

    Profiles in Resilience: Books for Children and Teens That Center the Lived



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    Experiences of Resilient Characters

    Resilience is a key trait that helps individuals navigate through challenging situations and come out stronger on the other side. In the world of children’s and young adult literature, there are countless stories that center around characters who demonstrate remarkable resilience in the face of adversity. These stories not only inspire readers to persevere in their own lives, but also provide valuable lessons and insights on overcoming obstacles.

    Here are some books for children and teens that highlight the lived experiences of resilient characters:

    1. “Wonder” by R.J. Palacio – This bestselling novel follows the story of Auggie Pullman, a young boy with a facial deformity who is starting middle school for the first time. Despite facing bullying and discrimination, Auggie’s resilience shines through as he learns to embrace his differences and find acceptance.

    2. “The Hate U Give” by Angie Thomas – This powerful YA novel explores the experiences of Starr Carter, a black teenager who witnesses the police shooting of her unarmed friend. Through her journey of activism and self-discovery, Starr demonstrates resilience in the face of systemic racism and injustice.

    3. “Fish in a Tree” by Lynda Mullaly Hunt – In this heartwarming middle grade novel, protagonist Ally struggles with dyslexia and feels like she doesn’t fit in at school. With the help of a supportive teacher and newfound friends, Ally learns to embrace her learning differences and discover her own strengths.

    4. “Brown Girl Dreaming” by Jacqueline Woodson – This award-winning memoir in verse chronicles Woodson’s childhood experiences growing up as an African American girl in the 1960s and 1970s. Through her poetry, Woodson captures the resilience and strength of her family as they navigate racial discrimination and societal challenges.

    These are just a few examples of the many books that center the lived experiences of resilient characters. By reading these stories, children and teens can learn valuable lessons on perseverance, empathy, and the power of resilience in overcoming adversity.
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